militza. 35. leo. mom.
elis. 30. capricorn. dad.
korine. 1. capricorn. kid.
How did you meet?
When did you move here?
Militza We were there celebrating New Year’s Eve together.
What does ‘home’ mean to you?
Militza As an artist the home often becomes one’s workplace. I can do everything here at home.
How are you affected by space?
What colours are you drawn to?
Do you have any rituals?
Elis Are you referring to my obsessive exercise routine? I do the same thing every day, it’s a ritual.
Rituals are repetitive, but they can also be meditative.
Militza But the silence makes me stressed.
Elis While I need the silence.
What’s your taste in music? It can be so divisive.
Militza When we met and chatted for the first time, Elis sent me a song he thought was good, a ballad by Pink. I thought it was so nice that he was so anxious about it. Then he sent a song by Miley Cyrus.
Elis We find common ground in so-called low-brow pop culture. But we run in to issues, like when she listens to HIM, for example.
my younger siblings
think that i smell like o’boy.
What is your relationship to scent?
What are the defining characteristics of stockholm?
What are your favourite spots?
Militza I like places that have soul, like Tyresta National Park.
Are there any house rules?
Militza It’s good for me to have order, I’m pretty pedantic. I talk a lot with my younger siblings about it. I’m also the one who is the most chill about it, but it’s a problem for us in all our relationships as we come from a home where it was quite strict and clean.
As a writer, what do you tend to read? What draws you to other writers?
What has it been like including korine in your lives?
Militza I was a little hesitant about that at first, while Elis thought we should take her with us.We thought we would just continue as usual and that she would take part in our social life. Of course, that was a bit naive, but we tried. We live small and have not decorated a baby room, or adapted to that type of life.
Elis You know that life is going to change, just not how.
But the question DOES IT HAVE TO? of course it will change as you say, but it may not BE shaped like everyone else’s?
how has your upbringing affected the way you decided to raise Korine?
Elis I’m pretty relaxed when it comes to parenting, but my parents were very lenient. They were young, fairly relaxed, both worked as educators, and were very permissive. There were always people at home, big parties with lots of people. We might not have had it easy financially, but we always had a lot of love and everything worked out.
Militza My upbringing was the opposite, characterized by the fact that we came from Ecuador and started a new life in Sweden, in a pretty nice suburb on the island of Ekerö. My mom in particular tried to get us into that community. There were quite strict limits to just fit in, which I felt bad about as a teenager.
my mother was adamant
that we speak swedish at home.
conformity is something inherent in the Swedish identity. as an outsider THERE IS A FEELING THAT you may never take part in that identity, WHICH MAKES YOU an observer, WITH no choice but to adapt, even if you DON`T want to.
There is also the idea of keeping up with the LARSSONS,THE neighbours. how was it on Ekerö?
Elis The Ekerö you have described to me, even though it was materially rich, was spiritually poor, culturally poor.
I have a friend who has a theory that you can not date someone within the same discipline, that there is something self-defeating in it. How is it for you?
Elis In the beginning Melitza would be annoyed when she noticed things that she’d said in my poems. She had to learn that I use whatever’s in my environment, that’s how I work because I have no imagination.
What do you like about each other’s work?
Elis The older I get, the more simple and banal I dare to be. At least when it comes to poetry, the ones that speaks directly from the heart are the best.
But I think it’s interesting in Militza’s art that she dares to become more personal, not more banal, but vulnerable, even though it’s still very violent and advanced, since she works with processes that are quite time consuming. She thinks a lot about details, but I’m pretty uneven and it’s part of my process to be that. Militza would never exhibit something that was unfinished, although I would like to see that.
Militza It has to feel finished, it’s important.
when my parents
got married it was punk.
You chose to get married. what does it mean to you and why did you make that choice?
Militza We were completely mad about each other. We didn’t think so long-term. We made it super easy, went to City Hall and were in and out. It was just us, I made my own veil. It was over so quickly. Something about it going so fast made me feel robbed.
Elis We must have a new wedding! Large and in a church.
It is, after all, a rite of passage. With every movement there is a counter-movement and our generation may choose the opposite of what our parents did.
Elis When my parents got married it was punk. They were from a scene that was trying to tear down all bourgeois institutions.
Militza If I were to get married again, I’d wear my mother's wedding dress, which she cut up to resemble the dress Stephanie Seymour wears in November Rain. ✺